In Uganda today, women
have to take care of the household even when they’re working eight hours a day.
They have to struggle through the 5 pm traffic jam so they can make it home two
hours early, get the kids ready for school the next day, help out with their
homework and whip up a meal.
There are very few
husbands who will help their wives in the kitchen regularly, however, most men
have stayed away from the kitchen, constantly providing excuses in the pretext
of another. “Cooking requires patience and I am not patient” Nicholas Kwizera,
a father of two says. Even when some men are willing to help their wives out with
the chores, women are afraid men will make a big mess. As a result, this has
put a big strain on most marriages. So how can we get our men into the kitchen?
We asked 50 women to find
out what could be done to increase men’s involvement in kitchen duty.
Make Simple Repeatable
Except for chefs, it is rare to find men that want to show off and cook big meals. Learning to cook simple repeatable meals should, therefore, be adopted by men who want to help out and eat healthily but are still shy in the kitchen. By doing this they find a middle ground. Research has also shown that more dietary choices are associated with increased body weight. Therefore repeating meals or using the same ingredients for some time can help you lose weight.
Embrace planned leftovers
Store prepped food by type, then assemble later
Cook up one protein and use it in different ways
Cook one side, turn it into multiple side dishes
Add more vegetarian options
Cook different meals at the same time
Freeze individually portioned meals for quick variety later
Do the prepping for him
Nakibuka Jane says her
husband hates the smell of onions on his hands. Same goes for garlic. The smell
of onions and garlic can be overwhelming but this should not be an excuse for a
man to help out in the kitchen. Cut the onions, garlic, tomatoes and peppers,
keep them in a ziplock bag in the fridge and text him directions. All he has to
do is follow the instructions so dinner will be ready by the time you are back
Give men a lot of
compliments. Human beings love to be complicated especially when they start a
new set of behavior, to encourage more involvement in the future. Tell him you
loved his eggs or how much you loved the pancakes he made. It is okay to make
mistakes especially when you’re a learner so don’t quickly get mad. You don’t
want him to stop helping in the kitchen, remember.
It is true that couples
that cook together, stay together because there is satisfaction in knowing that
you and your partner can work together towards a common goal. Ask him to cut
the vegetables as you marinate the chicken. Be present to monitor and direct
him. Spending time in the kitchen creates an experience for the two of you and
the two of you alone.
Lastly for the unmarried
or single men out there, you should note that it is important to eat properly
and to eat well. People need to get away from buying already processed food.
Food processing strips food of its fibres, nutrients and vitamins. The Harvard
Medical School found that men run the risk of heart disease and other nasties
like cancer, diabetes, liver and kidney diseases, than women. The manifestation
of this prevalent disease strikes men at age 65, and for women, the average age
for a first heart attack is 72. This is why men must get into the kitchen and
prepare healthy meals instead of buying processed food that will kill you in
the long run.